Ex Boyfriend Dating Another Girl? Here's How to Win Him Back!

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Watching your ex kiss another girl can be like a kick to the ribs. It might make you want to curl up in a ball and close out the rest of the world. But if you're looking to win back your boyfriend, this approach won't help. You'll need to pick yourself up and really focus on doing things to improve your situation. At the same time, you'll have to wait out the beginning of your ex boyfriend's new relationship. Sorry, but as hard as that might be for you, it's the only way to get him back.

Redirect Your Anger - The first step you'll need to take on the road to fixing your break up? Channeling all that anger and hurt you feel into something more constructive. Right now your ex is in the blossoming, budding, honeymoon period of his new relationship. Anything you could say or do right now would be completely ignored. He might feel pity for you, and he might try to make you feel better. But as we both know, the only thing that's going to make you feel better right now is if he were to break up with this new girl and fly back into your arms.

Instead of wishing for that to happen, work on making it happen. Accept the fact that your ex is now dating someone else. Understand that your relationship with him has come to an end, because this is the only way you can focus on building a new one with him. That won't happen tonight, tomorrow, or even soon. But it will happen. Believe in your heart that it will... close your eyes and visualize you and your ex together again. This type of self-fulfilling prophecy, coupled with positive thinking, will put you in a positive mindset. This will help you accomplish your goal of getting your ex back, and when he does finally see you again he'll notice the change in your personality. No one's going to be attracted to you if you're sobbing, miserable, depressed and withdrawn.

Let Go For a While - Once you've accepted the situation for what it is, it's time to drop out of your ex-boyfriend's life - and sight - for a while. You do this by engaging in activities that keep your mind off your break up. Anything social that you might do to help you feel better is a great start: see some friends, visit family, go out and do the things that you enjoy. If you have a hobby, dive into it. If you were thinking of taking a trip, now's the best time. Don't watch your ex, contact him, look for him, or try to find out what he's doing. Don't ask your friends about him. The less you know about your ex boyfriend's situation, the happier you'll be. And you know what else? He's going to suddenly wonder where you went.

Avoid Pushing Him Away

Upon finding out an ex-boyfriend is dating again, many girls make big mistakes. They call, email, or text-message their ex-boyfriends to death. They drive past their ex's house, or job, or school, and literally stalk them to see what's going on. They badmouth and slander their boyfriend's new girl, even if they don't know anything about her. These are jealous behaviors. They also mark you as desperate. When your ex boyfriend sees you acting like this, you quickly become a lot less attractive to him. This is going to greatly reduce your chances of getting your ex back.

The best thing to do? Nothing at all. Don't speak badly about your ex's new girlfriend... in fact, don't outwardly acknowledge his new relationship at all. Either your ex will see this as a sign of maturity, or he'll think that maybe you've moved on to greener pastures. Not knowing where you are or what you're doing will shake him up a little - he certainly expects the break up to affect you, and now you're showing him nothing. After not seeing you for a while, you've even started to make your ex miss you. All by not doing anything.

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These are only the first few steps to getting your boyfriend back from another girl. To see what to do next, check out Winning Him Back. And for the complete, detailed guide to fixing your breakup, be sure to visit How To Get Back An Ex Boyfriend!

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This article was published on 2010/04/02
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