It’s normal for a person to feel strongly against someone or something that has caused discomfort, disadvantage, etc. However, this does not mean that resentfulness is something that you should carry with you at all times.
Anger and resentfulness are two emotional responses that you should avoid entertaining whenever you are faced with a provoking situation. If you get angry easily, you tend to explode at people whenever you feel provoked.
At the end of the day, that bitter feeling that you get from being angry all the time invades even your sleep and this can cause additional worrying. For example, if you are a business owner who makes a habit of flying off the handle at the smallest mistakes, I can assure you – you will worry even more as the years go by.
Anger and resentment destroy common sense and genuine trust of other people. Without trust, a person becomes suspicious of everyone, not just employees. You will begin to feel that you are the only one that you can trust and this increases the burden of having a bad temper.
Feeling resentful toward someone may feel good at first because you feel that you are indirectly punishing the offending individual by hating him and being angry with him all the time.
If you feel resentful often enough, soon you’ll have a ‘bank of hatred’ – a mental list of all the people who have done you wrong and why you hate them so much.
Usually, people keep this list at the very surface of their consciousness because they ‘feel good’ being resentful. But at this point in time, let me ask you a very important question: does resentment actually harm your enemy?
Unless you takes steps to actually harm someone, resentment does not cause any direct or indirect damage to anyone but yourself.
If you were planning to hate someone silently until he drops dead, I think you might be looking at decades of disappointment because resentment doesn’t affect anyone but the person who chooses to hold grudges.
Doctors have long warned the public that stress, worrying, anger, and resentment are early roads to death. I’m going to repeat their warning right now, in this book: resentment and anger can cause high blood pressure and a myriad of diseases.
The human mind is so powerful that your thoughts and emotions have a direct effect on the human body. That’s why so many people suffer from inexplicable headaches, stomach problems, and heart-related problems – because of their dominant thoughts and emotions.
If you choose to be angry and resentful all the time, your body will grant your silent wish for bad health. Your blood pressure will rise and you’ll most certainly feel that you are stressed all the time.
Stress is a physiological (not just mental) response to anything that threatens a human being. If you’re angry at something, the body takes that as a signal to release stress hormones.
Unfortunately, if you are stressed all the time from being resentful and having an awful temper, the body eventually takes damage from being in a state of “fight or flight” for long periods of time.
The choice is yours to make. You can continue being resentful and do damage to your mind and body in the long term, or you can choose to throw resentment out the window because it is emotional baggage that you can do without.